The Pitfalls Of Being A People Pleaser & Why It Happens

Becoming a people pleaser is an adaptation from childhood. Compliance, subservience, and doing things for other people is seen as a good thing. Love and acceptance is conditional. You have to shrink into a shadow of your authentic self, and give all to the people around you, before you even consider your own needs.

Self sacrifice is seen as a good thing. But is it really? Some psychologists claim “you will smile your way through hell”. If you can manage to look fine, you must be navigating the deep waters, regardless of the chaos churning underneath it all. 

You bend over backwards, but it is never enough. It does not garner any respect, just more demands. You have no boundaries, because saying no is the opposite of compliance. If you are conditioned to being punished for saying no, or setting a boundary, you can quickly be dominated by those who push boundaries.

The basis for becoming a people pleaser is that you must succumb to what others want or expect of you, in order to be accepted. In other words, love and acceptance is conditional, and performance based.

You are not loved or accepted just for being who you are. In fact, you are not permitted to be who you are. The real you is taboo. People pleasing is about survival, yet it is ultimately self destructive. It brings disrespect, not respect. It opens the door to allow people to take advantage of you, like you have a bull’s eye on your forehead. 

People who are prone to manipulating others seem to think their target is dumb, an easy mark, and deserving of being duped and coerced. If you can be manipulated into servitude, then you agreed, and must take responsibility for your own actions. This in essence is true. However breaking free of the bondage, and learning to say no – should not lead to punishment and rejection. 

Although some manipulation is very sophisticated, more so, because we want to trust those we care about, we might be slow to fully comprehend the degree of manipulation, and gaslighting we are being exposed to. 

In the case of the abuse of power by an authority figure, they gain power initially through various acts of dominance, to include threats of violence. Mostly they rely on psychological, emotional, and spiritual domination through shaming, repetition, thought control or brain washing, while maintaining an aura of superiority. If they can position, and establish themselves as an all encompassing authority figure early in your life, they can enforce this dominance over you for a lifetime. In other words, they own you. 

Such a relationship is steeped in deception, with its origins veiled in secrecy. Truth dissects abuse of power, like a frog in a lab. Therefore truth is forbidden. It must be stifled at all costs. It empties you of who you are, and ironically, they are the ones who are stuffed shirts. They are filled with self-importance, and arrogance – yet are void of all understanding and integrity. 

The authority figure is abusing power because he knows your background, and thus he is able to target your vulnerabilities. In my opinion, a person who abuses power over a child, while in a paid position of trust, is a most despicable character. Does such a person ever repent? I have no idea, but somehow I doubt it. 

In time, and even intuitively at the onset of various schemes, we know in our heart what is going on. It is not about being dumb. It is about learned patterns of behaviour, in order to survive, avoid punishment, to be accepted, to get through school etc.

Part of our malleability stems from the denial of truth, because if we acknowledge truth in such situations, we must react, and do something about it. We are not intrinsically denying the truth of who we are, but rather, the deception is being forced upon us. The psychological trickery of an adult over a child, is sadistic and cruel. As a child, you know it is wrong, yet you are powerless. 

The early childhood conditioning convinces us that setting a boundary, or saying no – means there will be a fight. We will get punished, dominated, and ultimately rejected in such a fight. It is a battle we cannot win, or at least never did win as a child, because we were weaker, and had no say. 

Obedience to our parents is one thing, and is expected of children. But in some cases, it is not about parental obedience, but rather the abuse of power by authoritative figures, or by someone who is physically stronger. 

Good or bad, we are all part of history. We have a place in our family history as well as societal, and biblical history. Even if we are blotted out, or kicked out of our family – that too, becomes part of history. Nothing can take away who we are, where we came from, and what God has planned for our life. Nor can anyone hide the truth from God. It is a relief to know God sees all, and is just. 

Believers are part of God’s family. We are not discriminated against. We are not accepted based on works. We are forgiven by the grace of God, and our sincere belief in the gospel of Jesus Christ.

There is no worldly superiority in being a Christian. In fact, the opposite is true. There is no such thing as a “wonderful Christian” especially if it is a self ascribed. If a person has to describe themselves as such, chances are they are the opposite of what they claim. It’s just another one of many lies.

Pious and arrogant Christians are like the Pharisees described in the bible. They were supremely self-righteous, and thought they were morally superior. Ironically, they were seeking approval from men, not God, so they were examples of what it is to be a people pleaser in a self exalted sense. God has promised to give grace to the humble, and to bring down the proud. 

James 4:8

8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.

Luke 14:11

11 For whosoever exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.

Matthew 18:4

4 Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.

Proverbs 29:23

23 A man’s pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit.

James 4:6

6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.

James 4:10

10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.

Colossians 3:23-25

23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;

24  Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.

25  But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons.

Deep down people pleasing is born of fear. Fear of rejection, fear of punishment, and fear of abandonment. There is also fear of being judged and condemned. Too boisterous, too talkative, too inquisitive, too sensitive. All these things must be hidden, or adapted so you can comply with what is expected of you.

So you smile when you are angry. You agree to do what you don’t want to do. You apologize for even attempting to set a boundary. You pretend everything is fine. Youth gives us the elasticity to bend ourselves into a pretzel. But after awhile, we don’t spring back. Instead we become brittle, and on edge. Resentment builds until our heart breaks into open rebellion.

People pleasing does not gain us any respect. It does just the opposite. It proves we can be easily manipulated, dominated and controlled. It ensnares us and robs us of who we are. It locks us into fear instead of love, which requires healthy boundaries, and authenticity.

Love is not based on fear. 1 John 4:17-18

17 Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world.

18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

If the blueprint for our life is set up to constantly meet the expectations of the people around us, we are not only sacrificing who we are, but more importantly we are shutting out the love of God, based on fear. We are putting others ahead of God, or even in place of God in our lives. We are giving over our true identity in Christ, to false and shallow expectations designed to keep us in line.

There are people who are adept at seeing through the childhood vulnerabilities, and quickly recognize you are an easy target. In fact, they may know very well you were dominated, controlled, and unable to set healthy boundaries. If so, that is exactly where they want to keep you.

After years of compliance, when you do finally set boundaries, the fear of rejection, abandonment and punishment becomes a reality. It is how we learn to overcome fear that is not based in love, but rather is rooted in dominance, control and deception.

We cannot be who and what someone else wants us to be. We cannot miraculously become a different person molded into a cast designed to keep us compliant, and accepting of lies.

Truth is central to love. Without truth, there is no trust. Without trust, we cannot love. A complete and mature love for God removes fear of punishment and judgement. We trust God, because we know he first loved us, and God is love. God demands truth for very good reasons. Even for those who think they can hide things from God, the bible is clear, no one can hide their motives, thoughts, or what is in their heart.

Hebrews 4:12-13

12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

13 Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do.

Psalms 139:1-4

1 (To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David.) O LORD, thou hast searched me, and known me.

2 Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.

3 Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.

4 For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether.

Proverbs 15:3

3 The eyes of the LORD are in every place, beholding the evil and the good.

Jeremiah 16:17

17 For mine eyes are upon all their ways: they are not hid from my face, neither is their iniquity hid from mine eyes.

Job 34:21-22

21 For his eyes are upon the ways of man, and he seeth all his goings.

22 There is no darkness, nor shadow of death, where the workers of iniquity may hide themselves.

There is no deception, including self deception that can be hidden from God. For those who continually try to deceive, God gives them over to strong delusion.

2 Thessalonians 2:10-13

10 And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved.

11 And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie:

12 That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness.

Many Christians become confused into believing they should be pleasing men, instead of trusting God, and adhering to the truth. We also get accused of being selfish for taking care of ourselves, and for setting boundaries.

The bible does tell us to give up self and follow Christ. It does not tell us to give up self and become a people pleaser. The essence of love is truth, trust, and putting God in charge. All people are fallible, and without a secure foundation in God’s love, we can easily become rooted in fear, compliance, and a loss of self to forces that can destroy us. Keep in mind – we surrender self to God and no one else.

God’s love, and the love we have for family, and significant others will not be extinguished because we refuse to be people pleasers. There might be temporary rejection, and abandonment. But love is not conditional, and it will endure all things. God’s word places love above all else. Love is the light of the world, and will endure throughout eternity. 

1 John 1:5

5 This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.

1 Corinthians 13:6-7

6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

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Amillennialism ~ What Does It Mean & Where Did It Come From?

The Miriam Webster dictionary describes a-millennialism as “the denial that an earthly millennium of universal righteousness and peace will either precede or follow the second advent of Jesus Christ.”

Postmillennialism is defined as ” the theological doctrine that the second coming of Christ will occur after the millennium.”

Premillennialism is defined as ” The view that Christ’s return will usher in a future millennium of Messianic rule mentioned in Revelation.”

Recently I was listening to an intelligent bible teacher talk about these different views. He claimed the early church embraced the a-millennial point of view. This raised a red flag for me because my understanding is that the early church had a predominant belief in the premillennial view.

The a-millennial view could loosely be described as an early church belief, however it was not popularized until 300 years after the Apostles. It came about as a result of the teachings of St. Augustine and Calvinism.

We should be wary of all isms, because they tend to be man-made, and are more accurately defined as political ideologies. Nevertheless it seems all of Christendom is divided into these different belief systems.

The way they get around what it says in Revelation 20:1-7, is to claim it is spiritual in meaning, and is not to be taken literally:

1 And I saw an angel come down from heaven, having the key of the bottomless pit and a great chain in his hand.

2 And he laid hold on the dragon, that old serpent, which is the Devil, and Satan, and bound him a thousand years,

3 And cast him into the bottomless pit, and shut him up, and set a seal upon him, that he should deceive the nations no more, till the thousand years should be fulfilled: and after that he must be loosed a little season.

4 And I saw thrones, and they sat upon them, and judgment was given unto them: and I saw the souls of them that were beheaded for the witness of Jesus, and for the word of God, and which had not worshipped the beast, neither his image, neither had received his mark upon their foreheads, or in their hands; and they lived and reigned with Christ a thousand years.

5 But the rest of the dead lived not again until the thousand years were finished. This is the first resurrection.

6 Blessed and holy is he that hath part in the first resurrection: on such the second death hath no power, but they shall be priests of God and of Christ, and shall reign with him a thousand years.

7 And when the thousand years are expired, Satan shall be loosed out of his prison,

They claim these verses are spiritual, not literal, and therefore they cancel them out?

When you consider the entire Bible is spiritual because God is Spirit – what does that tell us about how they interpret the entire Bible?

Part of the problem with the a-millennial view is that they are focusing only on Revelation chapter 20, and claim it is the only place in the Bible where the thousand year reign is mentioned. However a peaceful reign is mentioned in other locations as well.

Even though Revelation is not in chronological order, it does not cancel out the millennial reign. And even though the thousand year reign is mentioned six times in chapter 20, and the thousand years is not located in other places in the bible, there is reference to the millennial reign in other locations, as being a time of peace.

In addition to the fact Satan is not currently bound, historically, and to date – there is war somewhere in the world. There has never been a time of global peace, even though there have been times of partial peace. War will not be abolished until Christ returns.

When has there been a time when wild animals were peaceful? When has there been a time when Satan was bound? As much as the a-millennialists and post millennialists claim we are in the midst of the millennium, our own observations should clue us in to the fact we are not experiencing peace, or an absence of evil influences.

We are in the midst of sophisticated deceptions, upheaval, uncertainty, spiritual warfare, and conflict. More importantly, we are in the midst of the great apostasy. We must be prudent. 

Isaiah 11:4-9

Genesis 1:2 tells us God is Spirit:

2  And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters.

The Book of Revelation is the revelation of Jesus Christ.

2 Timothy 3:16:

16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:

Galatians 1:8-12:

8 But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed.

9 As we said before, so say I now again, If any man preach any other gospel unto you than that ye have received, let him be accursed.

10 For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.

11 But I certify you, brethren, that the gospel which was preached of me is not after man.

12 For I neither received it of man, neither was I taught it, but by the revelation of Jesus Christ.

From a common sense perspective those familiar with the bible know that Satan has been roaming the earth since he was cast out of heaven. When has Satan ever been bound in all of history? How can they claim we are living in the millennial kingdom now when clearly Satan is not bound?

Many of the arguments to support doctrinal deviations will claim the bible is to be taken spiritually, not literally. The dispensationalists who also lean toward a different Gospel based on the teaching of John Darby in the 1800’s will insist the entire bible is to be taken literally.

Our basic reading comprehension has taught us the value of many different figures of speech, and metaphors, along with the ability to differentiate literalism from the figures of speech. The bible is spiritual, and contains figures of speech to illustrate, and help enhance our understanding. It also contains many literal truths that are to be taken at face value.

Therefore all of the arguments leaning toward one or the other are moot points.

One of the biggest problems with those who tamper with God’s word, is they mix truth with falsehood. If we recognize a doctrine that has many falsehoods, we might reject all of it, including some of the truth.

If we study and accept false doctrine, allowing ourselves to be deceived, we might accept all of it as truth, when in fact the doctrine has been altered to deliver some truth, with multiple falsehoods. Dispensational doctrine does teach and embrace the millennial reign of Christ.

They also teach a literal interpretation only, as if that is even possible. They teach there is a separation between Israel and the church. They teach that the bible has been divided into seven dispensations. And they teach the church will be secretly raptured prior to the second coming of Christ.

The dispensational beliefs deviate from what it actually says in the bible, in multiple ways. But they also reiterate certain truths, which makes it palatable to Christians who are not familiar with what it actually says in the bible.

Hebrews 4: 12:

12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

The dispensationalists frequently use the following verse to support their false doctrine, however they would be wise to compare it to the verse in Hebrews 4:12.

15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

Dividing the word of truth does not equate to dividing the entire bible into seven dispensations. Nor should it divide the body of Christ into two separate bodies – Israel and Gentiles. Nor should it divide the second coming of Christ into two different events.

Ephesians 2:14:

14 For he is our peace, who hath made both one, and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us;

John 17:15-17

15 I pray not that thou shouldest take them out of the world, but that thou shouldest keep them from the evil.

16 They are not of the world, even as I am not of the world.

17 Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth.

John 8:43-47

43 Why do ye not understand my speech? even because ye cannot hear my word.

44 Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

45 And because I tell you the truth, ye believe me not.

46 Which of you convinceth me of sin? And if I say the truth, why do ye not believe me?

47 He that is of God heareth God’s words: ye therefore hear them not, because ye are not of God.

A sobering reality is that Jesus is the word of God. If we believe a different Gospel, how can we claim to believe in Christ?

John 3:33-36 

33 He that hath received his testimony hath set to his seal that God is true.

34 For he whom God hath sent speaketh the words of God: for God giveth not the Spirit by measure unto him.

35 The Father loveth the Son, and hath given all things into his hand.

36 He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him.

John 1:1

1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.

Deuteronomy 4:2

2 Ye shall not add unto the word which I command you, neither shall ye diminish ought from it, that ye may keep the commandments of the LORD your God which I command you.

By no means do I consider myself to be an educator or bible teacher. I am sharing what it says in the bible, and to some degree am also incorporating aspects of deceptions and snares I fell into as a result of not reading the bible for myself. It is testimony to how any immersion into false doctrine is to walk and stumble in darkness, not the light of God.

Postmillennialism is the belief that the millennial reign will occur before the second coming of Christ. This appears to be based on the idea that the Gospel will be preached so effectively throughout the world, it will lead to global peace. Once again, this is placing the revelation of Jesus Christ onto man, not Christ. 

We are supposed to share God’s word. But we can never claim to be the ones to bring about peace, or the millennial reign of Christ. 

Man has never achieved peace in this world. Nor has man taken away the sin of the world, which is why there has been so much war and conflict. We must rely on Christ to overcome the world, not man. 

When we examine isms and their origins, we will find they come from man not God. We can sit and listen to those manmade isms without learning a thing. They will rationalize, deny, excuse, and lie. It may sound harsh, but that is the nature of man.

It is made to appear that we must choose between the three definitions. Yet of the three, it is dispensationalism that believes there will be a thousand year reign of Christ taken literally from Revelation verse 20. However, dispensationalism is rife with false doctrine in other areas. 

Very few preachers are teaching about historic premillennialism, which is what the early church believed before St. Augustine. Historic premillennialism did not contain the seven dispensations, the pre-tribulation rapture, the separation of the church, and various other Darby/Scofield teachings. 

The bible warns us not to be deceived. If we reject a-millennialism and post millennialism, it does not mean we should embrace dispensationalism. Read the bible for yourself without the preconceived notion of choosing which false doctrine to believe. 

The bible tells us Christ will return. What can we expect when he does return? 

What makes sense? Does it make sense to believe Satan was bound ages ago? Does it make sense to believe man will overcome the world, and the sin of the world? 

God has a plan, and he is telling us what He has planned for us, and the rest of the world. We do not conform His plan to our way of thinking, or we fall into a trap.

Jesus was here the first time, to offer salvation to the sinners (all of us). He was here to teach, heal and preach the Gospel (the good news). He did so humbly, and without extravagances. He was hated, persecuted, betrayed, and ultimately put to death. After His death, He was resurrected, and went to heaven to be with God, until it is time for His return.  

He is coming back as King, and Lord. When He does return, He will rule the earth, and put all of his enemies under his feet. This will be a battle and a victory like none other ever witnessed in the history of the world.

Jesus will fulfill God’s plan in stages, as outlined in the bible. The whole world will enter into a time of peace, rest, and restoration. When he returns, first the dead in Christ will be resurrected, and the believers who are still alive, will be caught up to meet him in the air. We will return to the earth, and rule with Christ for a thousand years. This is the millennial reign.

After the millennial reign, the rest of the dead will be resurrected and face the great white throne of judgement. Those who are not written in the Lamb’s Book of Life, will be thrown into the lake of fire (the second death). During this time frame, Satan will be let loose for awhile, and another great battle will follow. 

After the final battle and complete defeat of Satan, the new heavens and new earth will be ushered in. We will live with, worship, and commune with God for all eternity. 

The differences between the millennial reign and the new heavens and earth, are significant. During the millennial reign, the earth will be more like the Garden of Eden, but the nations, and the layout of the earth will be as it was when God created it. Although it is a time of rest, peace, and restoration, the sanctification is not complete until Satan is defeated for he final time. Death and sin must be overcome. 

The new heavens and new earth will not have any darkness – no night. God will be the light. There will be no sea. The new Jerusalem that comes down from heaven will be a magnificent and glorious place of worship. We will partake in, and experience the tree of life, and the living water. There will be no more sorrow, no more tears, no more death. 

I believe the thousand year reign as mentioned six times in Revelation verse 20, is meant to be taken literally. It should not be diminished, removed, denied, or described as metaphor. It is not worded as a metaphor, or figure of speech. In fact it is repeated six times just to reinforce it, in case we missed it the first time.

Is it spiritual? Yes of course it is. All scripture is spiritual – it is the word of God, and the revelation of Jesus Christ. 

Galatians 6:6-8:

6 Let him that is taught in the word communicate unto him that teacheth in all good things.

7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

Copyright Valerie J. Hayes and Quiet West (2025). Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author/owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Valerie J. Hayes and Quiet West with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

  

 

 

What Is Love?

Years ago I recall sitting around with a group of nurses discussing a tumultuous divorce that one of the nurses was going through. In the midst of the conversation, someone asked the question, what is love?

The responses were interesting, and often vague. Is it an emotion? Is it a decision? Is it set in stone, or changeable like the weather? Is one kind of love the same as another? Is the love for a child greater than the love for a partner? We began to wonder and contemplate if we knew what it actually meant. 

One woman who had been married seventeen years said her husband had never once told her he loved her. Not even when they got married, or when they had each child. She chalked it up to his inability to express his emotions.

Another divorced woman said she had mistaken lust for love, and when the honeymoon phase was over, she realized she had married a serial cheater, completely shattering her illusion of love.

Others believed it was a choice, a partnership, and transactional arrangement with mutual benefits. To make it work, there are trade offs and compromises to be made. Many people hold to the concept that marriage is an endurance test, through thick or thin, marriage is a lifelong commitment.

There is much more to love than what we surmised. Some of the women who were present admitted they were not even sure what love is, or what it means.

Perhaps love is first recognized, and known by most people within families. This foundational love ideally demonstrates love between two parents, extending to their children, and siblings who respect and support each others differences and endeavours.

It might help to define what is not love. Control is very common, yet it is not love. Love does not constantly have to seek the approval of someone else, whether it is a family member, or a spouse.

If we end up constantly seeking approval, we give away the right to be who we are, as authentic individuals. We are not all the same, and nor can we conform to, or fit into a mold made by someone who rejects who we are.

We do not need to constantly prove ourselves. Love is not based on our achievements. It is not based on trying to prove our worth, gain acceptance, avoid rejection, in order to exist. Love does not demand a sacrifice of self.

What kind of a person rejects, and will not accept a family member? Yet they might go to church every Sunday, and give the pious appearance of being good people. If all believers are in the family of God, or the body of Christ – how is it that people who claim to be Christians can be so merciless? So judgmental? So authoritative and demanding that another adult must conform to their every whim?

How can a sibling give another sibling up for adoption? To a cult no less. It is no different than throwing their sibling into a pit. They may have the power to throw you into a pit, but God has the power to get you out of it, and will enact justice according to His own timing. Because He is merciful, and patient with us, He gives all of us plenty of time to repent. 

Only a parent can give a child up for adoption. It is a legal procedure, and cannot be done on the sly, or lied about. Adoption protects the child from exploitation. That is why illegal, or feigned adoptions are unacceptable in any society. It has been that way since the beginning of time. 

There are many books of the bible where each person born is described as who begat who. Every lineage can be followed through, even those who were born to the concubines of kings. No one gets to pull another person out by their roots and offload them to someone else for profit and exploitation. We are not objects to be given away, or gotten rid of. We are not something the cultist found at a garage sale. People are not throwaways. 

Joseph was thrown into a pit by his siblings, and left for the dead. They took his coat and ripped it up, then showed it to his father, and told him Joseph had been killed by wild beasts. Joseph’s father was grief stricken, so not only were they cruel to Jospeh, but they also stuck a knife into the heart of Jacob.

Jacob had favoured Joseph over all his other sons. The coat they so unceremoniously ripped up, was given to Joseph by his father. 

In the case of Cain and Abel. Why did Cain murder his own brother? Abel had given a sacrifice to God that was acceptable to God. The sacrifice Cain gave was not. So in a fit of jealous rage, Cain killed his brother. It was the first murder in human history, and it happened early in history, because Abel and Cain were the sons of Adam and Eve. 

Of course God knew immediately what Cain had done. He also knew what Jospeh’s brothers had done to him. As it turned out, Joseph was rescued, and although he was expected to be a slave, he ended up demonstrating wisdom, and was put into a high ranking role.

Jospeh had the foresight to store up grain and provisions in abundance to prepare for famine in the land. As it turned out, his brothers travelled to get grain, and did not even recognize Joseph by then. But he knew who they were, and gave them plenty of grain, along with the money they had paid.

Initially they were frantic, as they thought it might be a ruse to accuse them of theft. But Jospeh reached out with mercy, and forgiveness. To his joy, Jacob was finally reunited with his long lost son. 

As we can see, when God’s love is in the picture, we can ascertain what true love means. God knows our family, all the hardships, the conflicts, and the betrayals. Only God can work things out for the good of those who love and place their trust in Him. 

In spite of our many mistakes, faults and shortcomings, we do not belong to the past, we belong to the future.

Rejection is not a measure of our worth. It is often the result of a loss of control over us. When someone only loves us based on the version of us they have crafted, or created, or deem to be acceptable, it is not love.

What kind of love is built on conditions? Since when are family relationships used to punish, take away your right to be a member of the family, or use innocent children as pawns? That is not based on love.

Love does not punish you for growth, for truth, or for who you are. Love does not set you up as a scapegoat within a dysfunctional family. Love does not try to deny who you are, or the family you were born into and raised by. Love does not cling to the past, but is able to let it go.

We have to get to the point where we do not have to betray self, to gain the approval of a more dominant and powerful family member. Estrangement is not based on our lack of love, but theirs. Love given as a condition of compliance, is not love at all. Control disguised as love is considered to be the cruelest form of deception.

Growth can be a lonely, but rewarding path. It brings clarity. It releases us from the bondage of the past. We have no control over the family we were born into. We do not have to be punished, rejected, fed to the wolves, or apologize for existing.

We do not have to be lesser than, so someone else can be more than we are. The path forward is not anger, but understanding how it all came to be, and simply letting go.

One of the things that has become crystal clear to me, is that we have to accept the truth. Not only the truth of who we are, and how things came to be, but the truth that can only come from God. As human beings, not only are we prone to being deceived, but we are also prone to self-deception.

We do play a role in all the conflicts we stumble into. None of us are pure as the driven snow.

Love is not a debt to be repaid. If it is treated as such, it is futile, and is not love at all. We do not need to dim our light so someone else can shine brighter. Love does not work that way.

Some of the greatest gifts from God relate to love, directly and indirectly. Only God knows our hearts, and based on His wisdom and love, he draws us to repentance, and humbles us. We can put our trust in Him, and be obedient, without having to live up to the expectations of men or women who do not accept us.

As part of God’s infinite wisdom, he gave us free will. God does not try to control us, or force us into a relationship with him. He knows that love is not love, if it is not given freely. It cannot be coerced. He cautions us to guard our hearts, to not be deceived, to forgive as we have been forgiven, to let go of anger, to have faith, and to give thanks for all things. We are not forced to obey these biblical instructions. No one has more power than God. For the oppressed, it is a great comfort to know God does not control us, yet He is in control of all things.

Nothing can separate us from the love of God. God’s love does not reject us, does not lie about us, does not try to make us conform to be something or someone else. God’s love teaches us mercy and forgiveness. We are secure in His love because He knows our true self.

We do not need to apologize for being who we are. We do not need to be punished for setting boundaries, or speaking the truth of who we are. We are not adopted into another family based on lies. We are adopted into the family of God, based on truth, and His promises.

We are not heirs to deception, but rather, we will inherit the Kingdom of God. The love of God is a gift, to include the saving grace of what Christ did for us on the cross.

Sometimes men cannot see beyond the capacity of their own limitations. It causes them to be insecure and controlling. Sometimes we are targets due to vulnerabilities, or being the youngest, or least powerful, in a hierarchy of abuse.

Sometimes our very existence forces a more powerful or dominant family member to face things he is not ready to face. We can bend ourselves into a pretzel, and will never be acceptable to them. Their coldness, and manipulations are not a debt we owe through self-sacrifice. It is hopeless and barren to even try, because the goal posts are always shifting, and the goal is to set us up for trickery and exploitation. I suppose it proves we are not as smart as we thought we were. Guile and duplicity is a hard act to follow. 

Our obedience to God calls upon us to be truthful, to forgive, and to trust in Him, not the forces that seek to blot us out of our own family, and out of existence.

Just as people cannot and should not try to control us, we too, have no right or avenue to control them. We can pray for them, hope they will change, and forgive them. But we have no control over them.

Therefore to answer the question – what is love? In a secular world, we can only rely upon conditional, and transactional love. Men may seek a beautiful woman to compliment their lives, and women may seek financial security and wealth to compliment their lives. But without God, this type of love is fleeting.

The bible prophecy does tell us that during the end times, the love of many will wax cold, to include family betrayal and rejection.

Matthew 24:10-13 – 10 And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another.

11 And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many.

12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.

13 But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.

Mark 13:12 – Now the brother shall betray the brother to death, and the father the son; and children shall rise up against their parents, and shall cause them to be put to death.

Luke 21:16-19 – 16 And ye shall be betrayed both by parents, and brethren, and kinsfolks, and friends; and some of you shall they cause to be put to death.

17 And ye shall be hated of all men for my name’s sake.

18 But there shall not an hair of your head perish.

19 In your patience possess ye your souls.

God teaches us what love is, so we are not confused or deceived by the secular world, or the attempts to use love, or withhold love to control us. He teaches us about betrayal and rejection, so we are able to endure the hardship, and emotional pain it causes. 

1 John 4:16 – And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.

1 John 4:19 – We love him, because he first loved us.

Romans 13:8 – Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.

Ephesians 5:25 – Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

1 John 4:8 – He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.

John 3:16 – For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

John 13:34-35 – A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

35 By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.

1 John 4:18 – There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

Mark 12: 29-31 – And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord:

30 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.

31 And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.

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Is There Any Such Thing As A “Wonderful Christian” ~ If So Who Are They?

Even though we might be told to view someone as a “wonderful Christian” – the Bible makes it very clear, there is no such person, with the exception of Christ. 

There is not a single human being who has ever fit such a category, not even the Apostles. All of God’s servants are sanctified by grace, and even so, remain vulnerable to the temptations of sin.

None of the Apostles referred to each other or themselves, as being wonderful Christians. They remained humble, as they understood it was very important to avoid being arrogant. Pious religious superiority was a distinctive trait of the Pharisees, not the servants of Christ.  

Romans 3:23 KJV states ” For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” 

This truth is stated in multiple locations throughout the Bible. In fact, in the Book of Revelation, the seven churches addressed at the beginning of the book, are repeatedly told to repent.

This means all Christians are called upon to examine themselves, and repent. Repentance is not just for the unbelievers, but also for the believers. It is not only for those who do obviously sinful acts, but also for those who manipulate, deceive, exploit others, or have excessive pride. 

When John the Baptist arrived on the scene, to preach the coming of Christ, his primary message to all people, was to repent. He suffered persecution and a horrific death, yet he was unwavering in his message. Prior to his death, he did not walk around claiming to be a wonderful Christian. 

Therefore anyone who thinks they are a wonderful Christian, is filled with false pride, and the truth in not in them.

1 John 8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

Anyone who promotes someone else as being some kind of deity, or wonderful exalted Christian, is establishing a cult worship and following, not a Christian one. 

How often do we hear pious Christians claim other people need to repent, yet they do not seem to think it applies to them?

If the wonderful Christian is out to manipulate and exploit people, of course the gullible are expected to view then as wonderful saints. 

That is exactly how cults and cult leaders gain the trust of the followers. They place themselves on a pedestal, and can do no wrong. Yet they are little more than wolves in sheep’s clothing. 

The reason for the clear Biblical instructions to repent, and to understand all people fall short of the glory of God, is to prevent people from worshipping themselves, or another person, instead of worshipping God. 

If we are prone to worshipping man, we can easily be deceived and fall into cult practices. We are also less likely to do any serious self examination. 

There are certain people who call themselves Christians, who I knew, listened to, and observed for many years. Yet I did not once hear them say they needed to repent.

They would not even apologize for blatant lies, exploitation and wrongdoing, no matter what. They were elitist and untouchable. Some of them believed they were above all, above the law, and as pure as the driven snow. 

It is true that our sins are forgiven, if we repent, and truly believe in Christ, what he did for us on the cross, and his death and resurrection. It is the central promise of the gospel. 

We are not forgiven because we are wonderful Christians but rather, because we have acknowledged the fact we are not wonderful Christians.

We are forgiven because we have recognized and admitted our sins. If so, we have genuine remorse, will confess, repent, and change our ways.

Most of all – we will understand forgiveness is granted by the grace of God. It has nothing to do with any Christian being wonderful. 

Even the most gifted among God’s people committed grievous sins. King David, King Solomon, and Noah were not without sin.

We live in a secular world, where even the mention of sin brings a haughty response. How dare anyone call wrongdoing a sin! Even if it is a premeditated, willful violation of the law, and morality – it is often denied, referred to as a mistake, or attributed to mental illness. 

If we become ensnared in the concept of elitism, riches, pride, self exaltation, and worshipping wolves in sheep’s clothing, how far is that from falling into the trap of worshipping the beast?

The Bible is full of warnings about deception, false pride and arrogance. 

As Christians we are blessed when we are humbled. It sounds like a contradiction, and is often a painful experience. However pride brings disgrace, and humility brings wisdom. 

Some people go through their entire lives full of false Christian arrogance. But sooner or later, they too will be humbled. 

We are not better than other people. We do not serve the will of man, especially those who are prone to false pride and exploitation. They are not superior.

No matter how exalted, how rich, how full of arrogance a person is, they are delusional if they think this makes them special. Even the most well known Christians in the Bible understood they were not better than other people. They did not go out and preach self glory. They glorified God. 

Although we are thankful for the help and encouragement of other people in our lives, we do not worship them, or view them as infallible.

In fact we are grateful to God, and no one has the right to tell us who or what to be grateful for. We might be grateful to a stranger who helped us lift a heavy object, or treated us with respect. 

We might be grateful to the author of a good book we read. We might be grateful that we have enough food to eat, or can take a hot bath. As we age, we are grateful for our health and independence. 

No one has the right to tell us what to be grateful for. No one can give us orders to be grateful for the health and well being of our children, and grandchildren. True gratitude does not rely on the orders of someone else. To each their own, when it comes to gratitude. 

Even God does not give us orders regarding what, and who to be grateful for. True gratitude belongs to God. 

Gratitude, like humility – comes from the heart. Just as it is with all things the Bible says about false pride, arrogance, and deception, it also tells us that only Christ knows our hearts, and true intentions.

Gratitude is a good practice, and helps to keep us humble. We live by faith, and faith is also something to be grateful for, as it gives us assurance and peace.

Other people, no matter how self exalted or powerful they are, do not get to dictate what we are  to be grateful for. 

The notion or claims of wonderful Christians, combined with orders to be grateful for those wonderful Christians, comes from a place of pride and cultish deception. 

For their sake, we can only hope they will eventually be humbled, and repent. They are setting themselves up for failure. They are lying. Fictitious, and so-called wonderful Christians, are not the path to salvation.

Jesus said in John 14″6  “I am the way, and the truth, and the life”.

If people deny the truth, they will lose their way. They should take truth seriously. Deception and pride is not from God. 

I do not intend to sound cynical about all Christians. Just as I have known some who are deceptive, cruel, shunning, and full of themselves, I have also known others who are just the opposite.

They were kind, empathic, humble, accepting, giving, warm, and loving. They demonstrated their Christianity in the way they treated others, showing the fruits of the Spirit.

In fact the Bible tells us in Mathew 7:20 KJV “Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.”

Galatian 5:22 KJV “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith.”

As much as I wish I had been more discerning throughout my life, and quicker to repent myself – I am grateful for knowing people who do have the fruits of the Spirit.

One of them was a neighbour on the farm where I grew up. Another was an elderly woman named Elsie, who I met in White Rock thirty some years ago. They were both incredibly kind, accepting, and full of love. I will always hold those women, and many other kind people, near and dear to my heart. 

The kind neighbour on the farm who lived nearby, had a tremendous influence on my life. I always found her to be gentle, caring, kind, and loving. I would beg to tag along on visits to her house, so I could talk to her, ask her questions about God, and play with the lambs they had on their farm.

I still clearly remember when I was around three years old, she told me God does not allow a sparrow to fall to the ground, and that He even knows the number of hairs on my head, so He will take care of me.

I was so amazed at what she told me, it stuck with me forever. I marvelled at little birds, and people with thick curly hair, and wondered how God could know so much. I would even try to touch people’s hair, just to see how thick it was. But by the time I started school, I soon found out, they would get annoyed, so I left their hair alone. 

Even though we have come across some real gems in our lifetime, we should still be aware – the fruits of the Spirit, are from God, not the person. God calls us according to His purpose, not ours.

We all grow up in a world with both the wheat and the tares. We would be wise to figure out ahead of time, which of the two we choose to be. 

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There Is Strong Delusion Sent To Those Who Refuse To Believe The Truth

The strong delusion is meant for those who do not seek the truth, and is part of end times bible prophecy. What does this mean for the increasing scope of mental health disorders? I wonder if it will be put into the end times DSM manual, aka the diagnostic bible for mental health disorders? Imagine if they added a refusal to believe the truth as the number one mental health disorder in the world? They could give people a bible to read instead of giving them psychoactive drugs like anti psychotics and ketamine.

Guess what? It is a condition that cannot be cured by drugs. It can only be cured by seeking, and obeying the truth. The real truth as outlined by God himself. 

For anyone interested in end times prophecy or eschatology, now would be a good time to review what the Bible says about the strong delusion, and how it affects people. It says lawlessness will be increased, and people’s hearts will become hardened. Love will wax cold. People will be arrogant, will mock God, and follow false teaching.

The strong delusion is not sent to trick people. It is sent because those who persistently deny the truth, take pleasure in all kinds of things God rejects; including lies, exploiting the weak, greed, pride, and deceptive ways to gain an advantage over others. So it is a prelude to the unfolding of the end times events, where God’s wrath begins to be poured out on those who reject Him.

Some people believe it is the epitome of arrogance to believe we know the truth, when all beliefs are accepted and respected in a secular world. It is true that people have choices in what they believe. We all have free will, especially when it comes to our spiritual beliefs. It is not people who judge others, or send them strong delusion, but rather God does.

It never ceases to amaze me how much false doctrine is being taught and preached now. The bible is altered in subtle ways, twisted and then used to deceive people, probably more than any other form of deception. Recently I listened to a couple of sermons by a preacher on YouTube who had a sub-title called “I’ll Be Honest”.

What an oxymoron, because he is steeped in amillennialism, and claimed the entire Book of Revelation is symbolic. He said, none of what it describes is actually going to happen. However, contrary to what he claimed, it is pretty obvious, the entire Bible contains a rich mixture of metaphor, parables, and literal truths.

This particular doctrine denies the second coming of Christ, as it is described throughout the Bible, and especially in the Book of Revelation. It denies the promise that Christ will reign on this earth for a thousand years, and will rule the earth with a rod of iron. There will be no more crooked tricks, and devious plans. People will live in peace and prosperity, as things are restored to what they were originally intended to be in the Garden of Eden.

This false doctrine claims the thousand year reign of Christ began when Christ was here on earth, and is ongoing. He overlooks the fact it was two thousand years ago, and then covers the inconsistency by saying a thousand years just means a very long time.

They also somehow manage to believe Satan is already bound. They arrive at this conclusion because of what they see as the power of Christian influence on earth. Theoretically at least, the Christians will make the world better and better until all evil is overcome. However it is pretty clear, the world is getting worse not better. We only need to look around us, and read about the historical events, and wars to know this is false doctrine.

When questioned about the negative developments in the world, they simply say it may take another 10,000 years, or 30,000 years, or whatever. How convenient. They seem to think there is such a thing as spiritual evolution, although it may take a hundred million years overall. They adapt what the Bible says, to what they want to believe, no matter how outlandish it might be.

What about all the verses in the Bible describing a thousand year reign of Christ on the earth after the second coming? Anyone who went to Sunday school, or has heard any portion of the gospel, knows about the verses describing how the sword will be turned into a pruning hook, and the weapons of war will be turned into ploughshares. Even more idyllic, is the description of a child leading the wild beasts, such as leopards, wolves and lions, and no harm shall come to them.

Have we ever seen a time in our world when children have no fear of wild beasts? Or where there has not been war in some location? There is no evidence or rationale whatsoever to believe Christians can overcome all the problems in this world. It’s not even possible, because the world leaders are making a mess of things, and they are not going to allow anyone to dominate them. They need more of a shake up than what people can orchestrate, in order to uproot the plans of the global leaders.

The bible contains many descriptions pertaining to the thousand year reign of Christ immediately following His second coming. There is nothing to indicate there will be a secret rapture prior to His second coming. The secret rapture doctrine supposedly is designed to save Christians from the coming tribulation. Yet all throughout history, Christians were never given such a promise.

In fact when you think about the many verses that tell Christians to endure until the end, and analogies to compare it to a race, what does that tell us? Do people quit a race just before they reach the finish line? Or the advice we are given to endure until death? Or the fact so many Christians throughout history were persecuted? Why would a certain group at the end of the age be treated special? There are also descriptions of the resurrection of people on the last day, the final trumpet, and so on. It says the dead in Christ will rise first, followed by those who are alive when He returns.

Why would the dead need to be raptured in order to be saved from the tribulation? Where does it say Christ will return three times? If so, the final return would not be called the second coming. Why would God’s plan all throughout history focus on a glorious triumphant climax, but minimize it or take it away by orchestrating a secret rapture? It is pure manmade fiction, and is not taught anywhere in the bible.

The amillennialism doctrine is also a man’s invention based on early Catholic beliefs. It came from Augustine of Hippo, around four hundred years after the death of Christ. He was also known as Saint Augustine, and as the name implies, he was of Catholic origin. Although I have not read much about him, apparently he deviated from Catholic beliefs to a certain extent as well, and some reports say toward the end of his life, he became a staunch atheist. So much for the honesty surrounding this doctrine.

Like the rapture theology, it makes no sense and is not taught in the bible. It is an offshoot of Catholic beliefs. The descriptions of the thousand year reign after Christ’s return are throughout the bible. It makes sense too, because after thousands of years leading up to the second coming, Christ returns to rule. Not to be persecuted, humiliated and killed. But to take over, and rule as King of the entire world. 

The descriptions of the thousand year reign, and the end of the thousand year reign are also very substantial parts of the entire gospel as it unfolds. The thousand year reign is a time of peace, prosperity, learning, and preparation for the great white throne of judgement. 

When Satan is released for a short time after the thousand year reign, and then destroyed for good, it is also in the same time frame that the dead who were not believers when Christ returned, will be raised from the dead, and face judgement.

After all these events take place, there will be a new world created, and an ushering in of the New Jerusalem. This is a very different description than what the earth will be like during the thousand year reign. The thousand year reign is comparable to a sabbath for the earth. Whereas the new world to follow, ushers in eternity with the presence of God.

God’s presence will be in the new world. There will be no more night or darkness. God himself will be the light of this world. Another huge difference is there will be no more sea, which would make much more room for people, for agriculture, and ease of travel.

The bible also describes a huge tree with a different fruit ripening every month, and all will be able to partake in it. It describes the new temple in magnificent terms, with gold, and gemstones, and all the gates that represent every tribe and nation. 

So for the manmade doctrines to dismiss significant portions of what the bible describes will happen, is to take away from the word, and lead people astray. It is God’s plan, and we have nothing to do with His plans.

Important men who mastermind plans in the name of God, are out of their minds. We are not even capable of comprehending the fullness of God’s plans, and therefore need to have faith, and take our beliefs directly from the bible, not false teachers and false prophets. They skip what they want to skip, and add what is not even there. 

In Christian beliefs, we would be wise to steer clear of all the isms, because ism simply means a man made ideology. If you look into the background of religious isms you will see the manmade origin of the heresy. In the case of dispensationalism and false rapture theology, you will find John Nelson Darby and Scofield, as primary people who invented and pushed this doctrine. In addition, the rapture doctrine brought about at least thirteen fictional Hollywood movies.

Premillennialism, Amillennialism, Postmillennialism are all manmade extrapolations designed to confuse people. Those words are not in the Bible. If people are going to preach the bible, they should stick with what it says in the bible. Many are led astray because of all the confusion, different denominations, and most of all, the different isms. 

There are many others who wrote about, and advanced the false doctrine of dispensationalism, and still do. It is rife with error, because it claims the Jewish people are separate, when the Bible says there is only one body of Christ, and that all Christians are equal before Christ. Darby made the changes to the original Bible in the 1830’s, which in the entire scope of things, was not that long ago. Originally Darby was an Anglican priest.

Darby also divided up the Bible into dispensations, and made the final one the dispensation of Grace, which basically allows, or encourages lawlessness, due to the notion there is automatic forgiveness, no matter what people do. It even advances many outright lies about God’s plan for humankind, going so far as to claim God made mistakes, and man’s rebellion caused Him to change his course. Dispensationalism breeds not only false teaching, but also supreme arrogance.

For some strange reason, many churches have embraced this doctrine. It not only has the false dispensations, and separation of Israel, but Darby made many other changes to the Bible as well, to include the notion of a seven year tribulation. Whatever his motives were, like Saint Augustine, they were not the least bit truthful.

If you look back at the history of followers of this doctrine like Scofield, you find out he was a dishonest and despicable character in his personal life. Darby is rumoured to have been a freemason, and developed the pre-tribulation rapture concept, after talking to a fifteen year old girl who claimed she levitated during a seance.

There are many other religious isms such as Seventh Day Adventism, which was established by Ellen White in 1863. She wrote all kinds of personal biblical end times interpretations, and believed she was a conduit to God’s plans. She believed she was anointed and special to the extent, if you read her history, you would think she was psychotic, as opposed to being anointed.

Ellen White set specific dates for the return of Christ that turned out to be false. She was charged with extensive plagiarism as well. It did not affect her dedicated followers in the least. Ellen White is still revered in the Seventh Day Adventist church to this day, and they use her writings as much, or more than they use the actual bible.

Another ism is Calvinism, which was established by John Calvin in 1519. John Calvin was also a cruel and despicable character. He formulated the TULIP acronym, or the five points of Calvinism. He was basically an offshoot of Augustine of Hippo. In fact he absolutely worshipped the guy. Thus all of this doctrine is rooted in the deviations from Catholicism that were initially defined by Saint Augustine, who also established the false doctrine of Amillennialism.

Another example of a well known false teacher who wrote copious numbers of books to promote himself, and certain doctrinal falsehoods, is John MacArthur. He is a five point Calvinist who claims to preach the truth of the Bible. Yet when he went to have a debate with Mormon leaders to try and sway them to Christianity, he took and shared his own books, as opposed to taking the bible. He too, like Darby, Augustine, Ellen White and many others will have left behind volumes of writings steeped in false doctrine. One thing we can know for certain is that these are manmade doctrines. Many of these preachers become very rich, and they view it as God’s blessings for their teachings. They are already deluded.

There are many isms in both religion and the secular world. In the secular world we have sexism, feminism, ableism, and ageism. These are all ideologies based on perceptions, personal beliefs, and interpretations of the world around us. They actually lead to the discrimination of other people, but are disguised to pretend they protect and prevent discrimination.

Marxism, socialism, communism, and capitalism, are isms that can be taken to extremes, and lead to fascism, and other forms of societal hardships. Many falsehoods deal in double speak and opposites. They can sound good based on the underlying utopian ideals. But they quickly devolve into totalitarianism and a lust for power.

There are countless deceptions in this world, and they seem to be growing by the day. Christ warned his disciples, and he warned us many times throughout the bible not to be deceived. He said the devil comes after us as a wolf in sheep’s clothing. The sheep don’t go out looking for the wolf. The wolves hunt the sheep, and many of us are caught in the jaws of the wolf.

The only way to overcome delusion is by finding, embracing and holding fast to the truth. First and foremost the truth of our own identity is a core issue. For those who believe in Christ, our identity is in Christ, our seed, and our own lineage. We belong to one of the twelve tribes who are sealed by the Holy Spirit.

We belong to the family of God. We cannot allow anyone to rob us, or deceive us about our identity. In addition, the Bible describes each and every generation, and who begat who. We are part of a much bigger picture, and cannot let the wolves drag us into their den of iniquity, and false identity.

It is not easy to shake off the falsehoods foisted upon us, and it is not easy to escape our own shortfalls, deceptions, addictions, and inclination to be deceived. We cannot save ourselves. We have to look for God’s guidance through His word, and have faith that Christ is the truth, the way and the life. No one can go to the Father except through Christ. He also promises to be a lamp to our feet, and show us the way. Otherwise every last one of us would succumb to strong delusion.

Delusion is not a DSM diagnosis. It is the condition of this world right now. It cannot be treated with drugs, or secular counselling. The only antidote is truth. If we embrace the truth, we can have much more confidence in having a sound mind, because that too, is one of God’s many promises for believers. We can get out from under all the fear, anxiety and depression as well, because we have hope and assurance.

We can find a solution for all the mental illness without labelling and drugging people. But none of us can control another person’s beliefs, or whether or not they seek the truth in the Bible. On a personal level, we have to repent, and let go of all of the mess we were trapped in, or created for ourselves, and find the truth of the bible.

People who become psychotic often believe they are getting commands from God. Religious beliefs can become central to mental illness.

However, the bible tells us God is love. The bible is God’s word, and never tells people to commit violence, suicide, lawlessness, or to take over the will of another person. Contrarily, it tells us to be meek, and to love one another. We are not supposed to seek revenge, or do harm to anyone, for any reason. 

The communication with God is through prayer, reading and hearing the bible, and through the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit helps us, comforts us and protects us, but never commands us to interfere with, or harm another person. The more we read, and learn what the bible says, the more grounded and stable we become. The bible and Holy Spirit gives us hope, and teaches us patience. 

So many of us have been steeped not only in secularism, addiction, and foundational lies, but also religious deception. We easily become ensnared, trapped and in bondage to the things of this world. Few things are more important than truth. In fact, nothing is more important than truth. Without truth we lose our way, we do not repent, we have no salvation, we cannot trust, and therefore we cannot know love. Without truth we are destined for destruction.

For those who refute Calvinism, several of them have taken it to the opposite extreme and adamantly claim that repentance is works, and therefore Christians are not required to repent of sins. Since when is repentance works, other than God’s work of sanctification in us?

Works involves things like giving to the poor, being a worship leader, caring for the sick, generosity, etc. Those are things people do freely, and without expectation of returns or gain. But repentance is not works. Abandoning sinful conduct is not works. It is simply a change of heart, and when that happens there is a change in conduct. We all have to recognize and repent of our own sin. It is a central theme throughout the entire bible. 

Pre-destiny is misconstrued by Calvinists because God knows what is, what was, and what is to come. The Calvinists took that to mean God has chosen them, and there is no free will. They fail to realize they are not God, and do not have God’s understanding of what people will choose to do. 

Repentance is not our works, but rather it is the work of God in us. It is part of the process of sanctification, and redemption. Like salvation, it is by the grace Of God that we come to recognize the magnitude of what Christ has done for us. As we listen to the truth of the gospel, our faith grows stronger, and we are affected by the awareness, and life changing aspects of God’s abundant grace.

Our growth comes from His work in us, not anything we can do by ourselves. Repentance is a blessing from God, and takes away delusion by letting us see the truth of our own condition. It brings us to an understanding of the power of forgiveness, and the truth of what Christ did for us on the cross.

Another stream of false teaching is that all non-believers will be in a lake of fire tormented for all eternity. Those verses are referring to Satan and the false prophet. The bible has many references to the second death for those who are not in the book of life when judgment day rolls around. The most famous verse in the Bible John 3:16 “…everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life…” That means those who do not believe will perish, and will not have eternal life.

Once again, there are many verses that tell us the non-believers will not have eternal life. Therefore to claim they will burn in extreme agony and torment forever and ever, is false teaching, and a complete misrepresentation of the character of God. It seems many of those who are rebuking other false teachers, then glibly go on to add some other form of false teaching. All these scholars and teachers must have read the Bible. It is hard to understand why they would teach false doctrine. 

Personally I do not want to be sent strong delusion. Even if certain truths in our life brings us rejection and punishment, we are to endure it, and trust God. Discernment is a gift, and it helps us to steer clear of all sorts of deceptions. We cannot be lukewarm, wishy washy milk toast, or spineless Christians, or the wolves will devour us.

We somehow have to balance embracing the truth, with love, mercy, repentance, forgiveness, and trust in God. There are many difficulties in life. Just as we are told wide is the gate that leads to destruction, we have to be prepared to head for the straight or narrow gate.

Mathew 7: 13-14 KJV

“13 Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat:

14 Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.”